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<blockquote data-quote="Henry" data-source="post: 493042" data-attributes="member: 158">Jason, if the &quot;factory analogy&quot; you used is true, then it may really be a little bit of envy. I assume you've told him that, to the contrary, it doesn't suck for you to do what you do. This may reinforce the job envy idea. After all, it is rare in society to actually do something that you love and get paid for it, or even make a living off it.If he's somebody you truly cherish still, it's worth it to bring it up. You've cut him off right now as it is; you stand little to lose if you bring it up in a heart to heart next time you ever see him.However, just because someone was your best man at your wedding does not mean that you and the person must necessarily be close now. My best man at the time of my wedding lives 200 miles away, and I hardly ever talk to him any more. We still are on good terms, but we have sadly fallen out of one anothers' lives as careers and family choices have migrated us apart.Instances like this force you to think about what you REALLY value out of a relationship with a person. If it causes more harm than good to maintain said relationship, you have to evaluate whether the relationship in question is really worth having.I hope what I said makes some sense, even though I can't give advice in a situation like that; although sometimes it may help if someone can put it in perspective.Take Care,Henry</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Henry, post: 493042, member: 158"] Jason, if the "factory analogy" you used is true, then it may really be a little bit of envy. I assume you've told him that, to the contrary, it doesn't suck for you to do what you do. This may reinforce the job envy idea. After all, it is rare in society to actually do something that you love and get paid for it, or even make a living off it. If he's somebody you truly cherish still, it's worth it to bring it up. You've cut him off right now as it is; you stand little to lose if you bring it up in a heart to heart next time you ever see him. However, just because someone was your best man at your wedding does not mean that you and the person must necessarily be close now. My best man at the time of my wedding lives 200 miles away, and I hardly ever talk to him any more. We still are on good terms, but we have sadly fallen out of one anothers' lives as careers and family choices have migrated us apart. Instances like this force you to think about what you REALLY value out of a relationship with a person. If it causes more harm than good to maintain said relationship, you have to evaluate whether the relationship in question is really worth having. I hope what I said makes some sense, even though I can't give advice in a situation like that; although sometimes it may help if someone can put it in perspective. Take Care, Henry [/QUOTE]

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