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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Christian" data-source="post: 757575" data-attributes="member: 381">OK, here's a new participant in the fray. I've only read the first and last pages, on the theory that so little of substance was said in that third of the thread ... just kidding! I just don't have as much time on my hands as some of you apparently do. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />I was drawn in because I had a double-take on the original post, to make sure that that wasn't my DM posting it. Because I'd proposed a character very much like that as a substitute for a character I'm retiring ... IMO, most of this type of thing can be handled with a little mutual respect. When I was designing the character, at several points I caught myself mentally referring to her as 'she'. (" ... to him as 'she'?" "... to it as 'she'?" Anyway, you know what I mean.) Finally, I decided to just go with the flow.My DM gave a facial expression indicating deep concern when I brought that up, and I immediately offered to change the character's gender if he wanted me to. (If you're reading this, Aaron, the offer still stands.) I think that ultimately, some mutual trust and respect can take a gaming group a long way. He's evidently decided to give me the benefit of the doubt on my ability to play this character, and I respect him enough to accept that he doesn't want cross-gender role-playing in his game. There's not ultimately a compromise available-I suppose that, if it doesn't seem to be working out, we could ret-con the character to male. But anyway, we'll see how it goes ...</blockquote>

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