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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Set" data-source="post: 4356477" data-attributes="member: 41584">Nothing you can do about this. Option one; he's gonna bow to her demands, and you won't get to see him anymore, since she won't let him associate with people like you (we've had this happen a few times). Generally people like this (of either gender) aren't in love with the person, they see them as a 'fixer-upper' or arm-candy trophy-wives, and have convinced themselves that they can turn the person into the sort of person they would rather be dating. So-and-so doesn't want to date a gamer nerd, and instead of finding a jock or something, she's decided to find a gamer-nerd and *train him* to not be a gamer-nerd anymore, 'cause it's more fun to utterly break someone in the process of molding the perfect spouse. Usually, after a few years, they realize that the other person isn't house-training into Prince Charming and that they 'bought a lemon.' Teary recriminations then follow, as Pygmalion blames the Galatea for not working hard enough to become the sort of person that they wanted them to turn into and still being the same old 'loser' or 'geek' or whatever that they married. In especially unhappy variations, they have kids, 'because I thought he/she would change if we had kids.' Easiest way to tell if you've landed one of these prizes is if they start 'accidentally' ruining your clothes and then buying you new clothes, because how you dress reflects upon their imaginary status. When they start talking about having a yard sale to get rid of your comic book collection, do whatever you have to do to get away, even if it involves gnawing off an appendage and changing your name.  This goes both ways.  An insecure boyfriend who flips out whenever his arm-candy is seen talking to another boy and is calling her every 20 minutes to check up on her and make sure that she's where she said she would be is more than annoying, it's a warning sign from the heavens to get the hell away from him. Option two; he's gonna get a new girlfriend who isn't an insecure controlling freak (and might even be a new potential gamer!), and be able to go out and play with his friends again (this also has happened a few times). Sometimes option 1 happens for a little while, and after a few years of misery, option 2 occurs (occasionally involving a messy divorce) and the gamer is free to have friends / dress himself / say anything other than 'yes, dear' in public again.</blockquote>

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