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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Thornir Alekeg" data-source="post: 4357185" data-attributes="member: 15651">Here are my thoughts as a gamer with a wife who (sometimes) games and has children:<ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If the children are present at a game, be prepared to watch your language.  Occasional slips a understandable, especially in tense or exciting situations, but if you tend to drop f-bombs regularly, something will have to change.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Kids are a major distraction from the game.  Things are going to get missed because of it.  Things may need to be repeated or recapped in the middle of the game.  On the flip side, the parents need to realize that sometimes you will need to muddle your way through part of the game with a less than perfect understanding of what is happening.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If the parents are using a babysitter, the DM needs to be very aware of the time and be willing to stop the session early, rather than get into a lengthy battle 20 minutes before they need to leave.  </li> </ol>For the person who has players with SOs who have problems with gaming; there is pretty much nothing you can do.  Those players need to figure out on their own what they want and need to be happy.  Some people don't think its that big a deal to give up gaming for their spouse, and they are right.  Other times it is one sign of a much larger issue where the spouse does not allow the player any personal social identity and it eventually leads to much larger problems.  As someone outside the relationship, you might be able to see that coming, but it is a very difficult thing to get yourself involved in.  If the player is a good friend you might bring up your concerns, but you have to let them decide for themselves.  Be ready for them to ignore your concerns,  then be ready to be a supporting friend in the years to come, and don't say "I told you so" if they are unhappy in their relationship.</blockquote>

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