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Message: <blockquote data-quote="pawsplay" data-source="post: 4357462" data-attributes="member: 15538">I have had to spank my children. it's not something I like to do. Basically, children are uncivilized. So you redirect them, bribe, cajole, compliment, model them and do all those other things to help discipline them. But ultimately, some kids are going to need a spanking sometime, because they are going to test your authority and see how much they can get away with and how determined you are for them to behave like civilized people. If a toddler slaps a six month old on the face, if a child goes starts to chew on an electrical cord after having been warned, if a child kicks someone without provocation, if a child removes their seatbelt while you are doing 65 on the highway, these situations can call for a spanking. This is good practice for adulthood, when assaulting people or destroying property can lead to an arrest, and messing with dangerous objects can lead to death.There is nothing barbaric about spanking. I am not sanctioning actually injuring the child, I am simply talking about pain inflicted for the purpose of teaching a lesson. It sounds harsh, but there it is. Parenting is a hard job, and it is even harder for people outside a situation to understand all the things that lead up to a discipline problem. People like Albert Bandura have given us strong arguments that a diet of violence can damage kids' judgment. But I don't accept his argument this makes all spanking, all bad, all the time. Plenty of studies have shown that cool-headed, reasonable punishments don't hurt and might help.I'm not sociopath, and my children are often complimented for their good behavior. Of all my children, only one has very often required a spanking, and I think we are almost past that. I have a BS in Psychology and I'm working on my Master's. I am very familiar with the issues from all sides, and I will say without hesitation that if it means the difference between your child being a bully or not, or electrocuting themselves or not, or destroying a $400 television or not, you will spank them if you have to.</blockquote>

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