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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Abstraction" data-source="post: 1967204" data-attributes="member: 25995">Split the housework. You each have your own chores to do. You then each have a choice. You can be happy with the way the other person does his/her chores, or you can do it yourself. There is no nagging somebody to do it right or, even worse, walking behind him/her and doing it over.Yes, you know that you're right and he's wrong. Be the first to apologize anyway.You do not have any entitlements. You are not entitled to have somebody else replace the toilet roll for you, or hang up your towel or do anything else for you. If you do need a favor, then a please and thank you will be required. Likewise, you are not entitled to take out any bad feelings on your mate, even if he/she is the cause.Nobody will change for you. You can accept them for what they are, or don't. They may or may not change for themselves.There is no such thing as saying "I love you" too much.Do the thing that makes him/her really happy/content, and do it without being asked.I disagree about the separate money thing. Let the person who needs to be involved in bill paying pay the bills and the other person not worry about it at all. I hand my check to my wife every week and let her sort it out. There is no reason two people need to stress and argue about bills.Have a budget. Have allowances. Spend no money on eating out or entertainment unless it comes out of your allowance.</blockquote>