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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mercurius" data-source="post: 5470339" data-attributes="member: 59082">I agree with you, Bryon, but would only add that we should also be aware of what effect our shared opinions have in a practical, interpersonal sense. I mean, all opinions are valid but it doesn't mean that all opinions are kind or aren't hurtful or controversial.My sense is that the issue surrounding the phrase "4E doesn't feel like D&D to me" (or one of its variants) centers on the implication of insult (whether perceived and/or actual). The cause of this is two-fold: 1) the inability or unwillingness of those saying the phrase to take any responsibility for the problems that their communication creates, and 2) the taking offense of those that perceive it as an insult even if it was not intended as one.There are also two possible deeper problems, but I'm hoping that most of us don't actually hold these views as they are much harder to uproot: 1) The unwillingness to see 4E as a valid form of D&D, even if it isn't to one's tastes or identification of what D&D is; and 2) The need to invalidate another's opinion about their preferred form of D&D because it differs from their own.The first pair of issues are easily dealt with - all it takes is willingness and a bit of self-awareness on both parts. The second pair of issues is much harder to deal with but, fortunately, less prevalent, at least among 95% of those that participate in these conversations.</blockquote>