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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mercurius" data-source="post: 5485347" data-attributes="member: 59082">Danny, not entirely agreeing with you does not mean I don't get it. It may be that you don't get it as you are using phrases like "you don't get it," which is just as much a faux pas as "get over it" if we're talking about diplomatic, politically correct communication. Why not phrase it "I am feeling that you may not be understanding what I am trying to communicate?" Because it is a pain in the arse, that's why! And that sort of phrasing, common in interpersonal communication theories (e.g. Nonviolent Communication) has the potential to be obfuscating. I'd prefer just plain, honest talk, especially among friends.Now of course the potential problem with "plain, honest talk" is that feelings may be hurt. It is a risk, really. I think there is a middle ground possible, which I try to tread. But I personally don't think that diplomacy must always come first, especially at the cost of expression and truthfulness. It depends upon the situation and I felt like using such language ("get over it") would be fine, or at least not overly aggressive, if framed within a context and post that was friendly in tone. I'm glad that dungeondelver didn't perceive what I said as an insult.And pawsplay, I meant to say what I said. Danny perceived it as insulting, whereas dungeondelver (for whom it was intended) didn't. The problem with these interwebs is that it is hard to write with the tone and nuance that comes with being physically present. This is one of the reasons why flame wars rage on the internet, I think - because of pure and simple miscommunication and misunderstanding!But all of this is just a distraction. This is a forum (and thread)  about RPGs, not communication. Let's keep it that way, shall we?</blockquote>

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