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Message: <blockquote data-quote="pawsplay" data-source="post: 5485355" data-attributes="member: 15538">I disagree. "Get over it" is an aggressive attempt to tell someone else what they should feel and how they should respond to a situation. "You don't get it," is just a statement of what I believe to be true. "Politically correct" is a throwaway phrase in this context. Unless you are talking about a specific cultural viewpoint on a way of phrasing something, it's so general as to have no meaning at all.That's not even really a feeling. If you want to be picky, a particularly diplomatic phrasing might be: "The thing you are saying to me lead me to think you do not understand what I am trying to say.""Get over it" is neither plain nor honest. It holds a number of implied meanings and judgments. Further, you can say it without any interest in the other person's feelings. Most people say "get over it" when they mean "I am not interested in your feelings on this matter."I avoid saying "never," but I don't think "get over it" is a hepful phrase except in situations where you wish to express a lack of concern for the other person's interest.Also, because of communication and understanding. Clearly, if I understand you to have communicated contempt for my viewpoint, we are likely to have a disagreement.This is a tangent, probably one that will tidy up in a few posts. I feel distracted by the combination of your assumptions and your apparent lack of interest in modifying those assumptions, or at least your mannever of expressing them. As long as you are trying to tell people to "get over it," whatever specific phrasing you use to communicate that attitude, it is likely there will continue to be distractions. Please seriously consider what others have said to you; they invested some effort in helping you understand.</blockquote>

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