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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Treebore" data-source="post: 3246016" data-attributes="member: 10177">I wonder if my brothers think the same of me. I stay away from my family. We stay away from my wifes family. Know why? Because when we got married they bad mouthed us behind our back. My wife about me to her, and my family about her to me.I quickly realized the stress this was causing on our marriage. So I told my wife to forget about them (that is the grandma friendly version of what I said). We are husband and wife, we need to establish our marriage and take care of our kids first. To heck with our families and all their baloney.So we did. We ignored our families and concentrated on making "us" work. We've been doing that for over 16 years now.Plus, on my side of the family my father and brothers finally told me that they were wrong about my wife and that she was a excellent "pick". That was two years ago.My wife's father told her essentially the same about marrying me. Last year.Of course, by now, we are so set in living "our" life, my family is in Ohio, hers is in SC. Her dad is moving out here, into the house next to us.So I have to wonder, when your brother first married, what did your family say about her?If you guys were unsupportive and negative about her, maybe your brother made the same choice I did. My wife came first. Like I mentioned in my previous post, I know far from enough to give any real advice. But you may want to try and look at things from his perspective. It sounds to me like you guys may have insulted him, his wife, or both, so rather than fight with you about it, he stays away.Then again your brother may be an absolutely self centered snobbish jerk face.So again, like I said before, talk to him. Like you are both adults and not afraid of being honest.I don't know about you, but I like knowing exactly where I stand with people. My family told me where my wife stood 16+ years ago. I guess it shocked them when I went and stood next to her. Took them 14 years to get over it. 15 in the case of my wife's father. Many others have yet to get over it.So talk to him. Ask him straight out. Its the only way your ever going to find out the real reasons.After all, it is almost a New Year. A perfect time for new beginnings, or endings.</blockquote>

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