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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Treebore" data-source="post: 3251297" data-attributes="member: 10177">I'm of the firm belief that "fixing your life" starts and ends with fixing yourself. Which requires a lot of honesty, about yourself, and those around you. Often a very painful proposition. Plus we often trap ourselves into only certain paths. Like they are imutable. They only stay that way as long as we are unwilling to allow ourselves other paths.I believe we are all entitled to happiness. The only reason we don't achieve it is because we chose paths that block it from us. I take a path as soon as I realize it will get me there. Since that also means it has to be a path where I cause no one else harm, its been working for me. Notice I said where I don't cause others harm. When people chose paths that harm themselves, because I chose a path that takes me away from them, so I can find my own happiness, that does not mean I am harming them. I am not ultimately responsible for their happiness. I can only try what is within my ability. Once I have done that my obligation to them is over. I move on. If things conspire to where, down the road, I can help them to help themselves again, I do. I do not have to hold myself back until that happens, though.Its far from any easy path to figure out, but I know I am getting happier and happier as I travel it. My wife and kids benefit from it as well.Plus my wife seems to finally be seeing what I have been saying. She has quit letting all these obligations to her mother and other family tie her down. She accepts that she has done all she can for them, so improves herself until opportunities open up down the road. You owe help to your family, but not to the point of self suffocation.Your entitled to your own happiness, even if those around you chose not to find the same path, and self destruct instead. You are not obligated to destroy yourself along with them. In fact, it is wrong of them to expect or demand that you do so.Like I said, not easy to figure out and see. But like everything else, it gets easier with practice.</blockquote>

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