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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Spell" data-source="post: 1722229" data-attributes="member: 19718">i was left by my fiancée at the start of june. it was one of the worst thing that could happen to me. believe me when i say that i *truly* loved her. i felt for her what you're feeling for your current girlfriend. i felt she was the One.when i found out that she had cheated on me, that she didn't feel ashamed (not even a bit), and that she had "sugar coated" a couple of huge problems she had with me, i felt the worst piece of crap on earth. i still feel a little bit, even though i know that there's nothing i could have done to change things for the better. i think it will be months (or years) before i can find myself truly confortable with any other girl again.why am i telling you this?  because i recognise a couple of mistakes that i have made.number one: i think you idealise this girl too much. how can she be so perfect, when she gets upset for girls you were dating *before* even meeting her? how can she be jealous for your past dates, when you know nothing about her?number two: you say she is the One. now, i'm not a psychologist, or anything. i do believe, though, that when two are in love, it always spring for them. i don't want to sound new-agey, but there's something like an exchange of energy. they are happy, glowing, nicer, more relaxed, because they know they have found somebody special.you don't look happier, or more relaxed to me. i don't know if she's really the girls that fits your life perfectly... but she surely isn't making you happier than a terrorist with a gun pointed at your head!ok, you love her, or maybe you think you love her. does she loves you? i don't think so, from what you are telling us.quit her. you have to walk your footsteps, not surrender to someone else's whims. of course you can excuse her behaviour in a number of ways, just like i did with my fiancée. nevertheless, at the end of the day, you have to be more concerned about yourself and your well being. if you're feeling so low at the beginning of the relationship, how are you gonna feel when the real problems start to rock the boat? it's likely that she won't give a damn, and you will be left with regrets and "what if"s.i don't know how you feel about life, but i think there is already enough problems in the world to actively put ourselves in new ones.</blockquote>

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