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<blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 1722624" data-attributes="member: 99">Gnarlo, my friend, I've got two pieces of advice for you.&nbsp; I hope that you take at least one of them:1)&nbsp; DON'T pursue the latest flake.&nbsp; LET her GO with the new crowd of &quot;friends&quot;.&nbsp; It sounds to me like all you will have lost is yet another drama queen who is destined to keep you confused and off balance, unable to identify what it is that you really need in a partner.2)&nbsp; DO go talk to a counselor or therapist of some kind.&nbsp; You need to get some clarity about what you're after in this world.&nbsp; This crazy mix of patchwork relationships that you're trying to make into a collage resembling your &quot;soulmate&quot; is not healthy.&nbsp; You're never going to find somebody that is exactly like her.&nbsp; And if anything can screw up a relationship faster than being constantly compared to an old girlfriend, I don't know what it is.A healthy, loving relationship can only be based on who a person really is, not who you want them to be or think they have the potential to be.I think that some introspective &quot;alone time&quot; would help you tremendously.&nbsp; I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you'll come back here if you want further advice or just to vent.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Rel, post: 1722624, member: 99"] Gnarlo, my friend, I've got two pieces of advice for you. I hope that you take at least one of them: 1) DON'T pursue the latest flake. LET her GO with the new crowd of "friends". It sounds to me like all you will have lost is yet another drama queen who is destined to keep you confused and off balance, unable to identify what it is that you really need in a partner. 2) DO go talk to a counselor or therapist of some kind. You need to get some clarity about what you're after in this world. This crazy mix of patchwork relationships that you're trying to make into a collage resembling your "soulmate" is not healthy. You're never going to find somebody that is exactly like her. And if anything can screw up a relationship faster than being constantly compared to an old girlfriend, I don't know what it is. A healthy, loving relationship can only be based on who a person really is, not who you want them to be or think they have the potential to be. I think that some introspective "alone time" would help you tremendously. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you'll come back here if you want further advice or just to vent. [/QUOTE]

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