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<blockquote data-quote="Wik" data-source="post: 5493281" data-attributes="member: 40177">I'm going to offer the dissenting decision here.&nbsp; Not only is there not much you can do, but there's not much you SHOULD do.He's a fellow gamer.&nbsp; He's someone you game with occasionally.&nbsp; He is not, however, your responsibility.&nbsp; You have absolutely no reason to buoy his self confidence.That being said, it's an admirable goal you've set, and positive reinforcement could work... but I think you'd be better off just saying &quot;dude, you're pretty harsh on yourself.&nbsp; The only person who thinks you're a crappy player is you.&nbsp; Everyone else likes you and thinks your character is great.&quot;&nbsp; Personally, though.&nbsp; This doesn't sound like a long term friend, but just a casual acquaintance you game with.&nbsp; If we tried to fix everyone around us, we'd find ourselves going crazy.&nbsp; I think you're better off just not getting involved, or at the very least, not really seeing him as some sort of &quot;project&quot;.That being said, I've had gamers come out and help me out in rough times.&nbsp; And I've done the same thing for them.&nbsp; But they were gamers that were also my friends.&nbsp; If he's not really a good friend, I think getting involved might be a bad idea.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Wik, post: 5493281, member: 40177"] I'm going to offer the dissenting decision here. Not only is there not much you can do, but there's not much you SHOULD do. He's a fellow gamer. He's someone you game with occasionally. He is not, however, your responsibility. You have absolutely no reason to buoy his self confidence. That being said, it's an admirable goal you've set, and positive reinforcement could work... but I think you'd be better off just saying "dude, you're pretty harsh on yourself. The only person who thinks you're a crappy player is you. Everyone else likes you and thinks your character is great." Personally, though. This doesn't sound like a long term friend, but just a casual acquaintance you game with. If we tried to fix everyone around us, we'd find ourselves going crazy. I think you're better off just not getting involved, or at the very least, not really seeing him as some sort of "project". That being said, I've had gamers come out and help me out in rough times. And I've done the same thing for them. But they were gamers that were also my friends. If he's not really a good friend, I think getting involved might be a bad idea. [/QUOTE]

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