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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 1533547" data-attributes="member: 12043">Well, There is no real method to get over the nerves, but I have to say - I think it's kind of odd that she wants you to meet a guy she had a previous intimate relationship with. I don't meet ex girlfriends of guys I've ever dated. It's just a little rule I have because I know myself and I know it makes ME very uncomfortable to the point of physical illness. (I've had a lot of guys leave me for exes, so maybe that's why). Anyway, I think it's best for all involved. And I would never put my boyfriend in a situation where he had to meet one of my exes. It's an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved, most of the time. If my boyfriend asked me to meet someone he had that sort of relationship with, I'd politely decline. I mean, he can still see her if he feels the need to, but if he expected me to want to be her best buddy, I'd have a problem with it. That's just my opinion and I know a lot of people will disagree. :shrug: I guess, if it doesn't bug you though, then just ignore him or be polite when you meet him. I've noticed men tend to be a lot cooler with meeting exes than women. (Most of my female friends feel the same way I do. Most of the guys are like, "whats the big deal". Maybe it's in our genes.)As for meeting the rest of the family, just be yourself. Avoid controversial issues and if someone says something you think is silly or dumb, ignore it. But don't be fake. Try to find something light to discuss with them. If you're at someone's house, maybe comment on something in the house you find interesting, whether it's a piece of art or their stereo system or their lawn. People love to talk about their stuff. Another good thing to talk about if it comes up is travel. Who doesn't love to retell their vacation ? So if someone mentions travel or something like that (that you see as a good hook into talking about something mutually interesting yet harmless) grab it and ask questions.Pets and children are another good topic. People love to tell pet stories.Brooke's sister sounds very immature and silly. It sounds like she is the one causing the most distress here and I think you really just have to ignore it, and kill her with kindness. Snooty people HATE it when you are ridiculously nice to them. <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/laugh.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":lol:" title="Laughing    :lol:" data-shortname=":lol:" /> One thing I have found in my relationship now is that his family is VERY different from mine. They are all very close, there are way more of them than in my family and they get together often. I have little in common with any of them but I am okay with going to their gatherings. I usually talk to them about the topics I mentioned above (travel, pets, children etc.). Also, even though there's a lot of people there, I am usually just with a small group. And talk to the children if there are any. Nothing makes a family like you more than being able to entertain their kids. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />My family on the other hand is very small. And they love to talk politics and debate and stuff. Good luck and I'm sure it will be fine.</blockquote>

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