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<blockquote data-quote="MNblockhead" data-source="post: 8070567" data-attributes="member: 6796661"><p>I'm guilty of this. When someone comes to me ranting, whining, or complaining, I tend to try help them solve their issue. If that annoys them, I get annoyed. Why are you wasting my time--and yours--bitching about something you don't want to do anything about. I've gotten better about this, but I still have low tolerance for whiners and tend to distance myself from them.</p><p></p><p>But the OP seems to not be talking about needing to just vent, but wanting to discuss something without being tutored. That's tougher. I can see that it would be annoying IRL if I was talking about something I had a good deal of knowledge about and someone insisted on instructing me on basic points. IRL it is less of an issue because you tend to know people better or can quickly shut it down with an "I understand that, what I'm talking about is..." The asynchronous nature of forums makes this difficult. Not everyone is reading the entire thread before responding. Also, it is much more likely that those responding don't know you well, or at all.</p><p></p><p>I think most people (anecdotal, I have no idea if there is even research on this) tend to err on the side of assuming you don't have the background in an area. They assume a lower level of skill knowledge until proven otherwise. I don't think this is usually done with ill intent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MNblockhead, post: 8070567, member: 6796661"] I'm guilty of this. When someone comes to me ranting, whining, or complaining, I tend to try help them solve their issue. If that annoys them, I get annoyed. Why are you wasting my time--and yours--bitching about something you don't want to do anything about. I've gotten better about this, but I still have low tolerance for whiners and tend to distance myself from them. But the OP seems to not be talking about needing to just vent, but wanting to discuss something without being tutored. That's tougher. I can see that it would be annoying IRL if I was talking about something I had a good deal of knowledge about and someone insisted on instructing me on basic points. IRL it is less of an issue because you tend to know people better or can quickly shut it down with an "I understand that, what I'm talking about is..." The asynchronous nature of forums makes this difficult. Not everyone is reading the entire thread before responding. Also, it is much more likely that those responding don't know you well, or at all. I think most people (anecdotal, I have no idea if there is even research on this) tend to err on the side of assuming you don't have the background in an area. They assume a lower level of skill knowledge until proven otherwise. I don't think this is usually done with ill intent. [/QUOTE]
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