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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Sound of Azure" data-source="post: 3380640" data-attributes="member: 40749">I hope you're feeling a little better now AaronL... A few years ago I was a bit like that. The thing I realised was that women aren't, in fact all wonderful, caring beings. Some women are jerks. It just means they're human beings, really. There's good and bad in all cultures, genders, sexualities, and etc. It's human nature, and people make mistakes.  The important thing is... you shouldn't lose hope. It's too easy to get cynical or abrasive, and make it even harder to make connections with others. Does the world need another sad and bitter person with a grimace on their face? Stuff that! I'd rather have hope... I'd rather have a smile on my face. If there's one thing I've learnt doing theatre, it's that even fake happiness... it's contagious, even to the one who's faking. Acting in a happy way, and being friendly? It doesn't take long for real happiness to happen, because people generally react well to positive-minded people. You want things to be different with girls? You've got to swing the bat. Sometimes you'll miss... but if don't swing the bat, you'll never know what will happen... and there's something hollow about living like that. To me, anyway. Women... they aren't some homogenous group of automatons who all act the same way. There are many gentle souls out there... girls who are right for you and will be happy to live, love, and learn with you.Lack of relationships? It's not good, surely... I think it's important to have your heart in a good place before starting relationships with people you want to be close to (particularly romantic relationships). It certainly could be a lot worse, though.I've always found my biggest success in attracting interest (I admit, I haven't had a lot of long term relationships either, however) when I've been genuinely happy with my life, or at least working towards something. Ambition, conidence, happiness, thoughtfulness... they're all good qualities to have, in my opinion. If you don't believe, what is there for a girl to put her faith in?I've no doubt there are large numbers of women who'd be interested in someone like you, should they get to know you. Might take some trial and error though, but like all things... it takes practice. As for spending a weekend watching movies by yourself... there's nothing wrong with that at all. But if you're not happy with that, maybe try an outside hobby if that's possible. Personally (now that I can afford it over a long term basis), I've decided to take up dance lessons (I'm gonna learn to Salsa) and tai chi (for fitness), to keep me busy over the weekend since I'm not gaming right now. I'm really loking forward to it, both for the activity and to meet new people. I'm trying to build new friendships outside of my existing circle of friends... mainly because you can never have enough friends, but also because (for me, at least) staves off the posssibility of stagnation. I hate it when I get all depressed and in a rut, you know? What was all that rambling about? Sorry. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f631.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":o" title="Eek!    :o"  data-smilie="9"data-shortname=":o" />  I guess I'm trying to say.. try to do something new. At the very least, you can worry about something new. Hopefully though, you'll discover some joy in your new activity. If I don't see you around before then, happy birthday for the end of the month.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Anyway, good luck AaronL. As I said, I hope you're feeling at least a little better now. ---And Side Kick,Good luck with your Red-headed friend. I'm glad you've found someone who sounds intriguing and cool.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Aussie.... you have good taste.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />  I'm sure you'll have fun.</blockquote>

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