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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Lord Captian Tobacco" data-source="post: 5300949" data-attributes="member: 93707">This is probably just a case of the wife not being in the limelight. Not really enough to say but I have encountered (and gotten exp for defeating) difficult players and the significant other is the hardest one to deal with. The weapons are legendary: “you’re more interested in this game than me!”, “If you really care you’ll save my character.”, crying, throwing the game, and many others. It’s more a question of maturity; both on the part of the GM and on the player. It almost always is. Much like watching a high-school player graduate from munchkin and power gamer to the next level it is in the individual. What is not mentioned here is the deeper problems between the husband and wife. Is she pissed about him not spending time with her? Not the groups problem to deal with but they catch the fall-out. Is it the choice of game editions? Nobody gets their way always; if the group voted, she can go along with it or ‘vote with her feet’.  Did something happen in the last game and she wants her ‘pound of flesh’? Then the OP has a problem; especially if the rest of the group is neutral or oblivious to the offense.  Someone mentioned groups of women and attendant problems. If I get a group of three or more female players, two ALWAYS turn on the third. ALWAYS.  It may not be blatant but it’s there. Not sure why this happens but my guess is that it is somehow programmed into their psyche…But I have also met many who were more balanced. The best example (maybe I’m biased. Scratch that. I am biased) is my wife. We met at a Renn faire. Have many things in common and can compete as equals in intellectual activities. That she is many years my junior makes it easy to work with in the game. You see, most players don’t know that we are married. Our ability to separate our emotions for the fun of character play is one of the competitions. Sounds simple but it’s really not. She is smart enough to seriously challenge my plots and the villains. She is resourceful enough that she’ll make do with fairly mundane gear, but use it to the max. And always is able to explain the ‘what and why’ of her actions. She’ll take a GM call, argue once with supports from rules/physics/commonsense, and then, go back to the game. Just like any other convention level player.  But then that’s why I married her. Not everyone is as fortunate as I (and, I hope she) but it can happen to you. The game or a relationship, like real take a level of maturity that is often lacking but can be reached with time, patience, courage, and dedication to the thing you love, whether game or relationship.  Good luck on your search…  </blockquote>

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