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<blockquote data-quote="CTD" data-source="post: 601359" data-attributes="member: 7402">Re: Don't $h1* where you eat?Bah humbug!Dating at the workplace is quite common in adult life. The trick is to be an adult about it. Ask her out. You'll regret it forever if you don't. When you do you must be mindfful that you are at work, this is true, but you can be mindful of the business place, and still ask.Just be direct. &quot;I was wondering if you would like to have dinner at resturant XYZ on Saturday?&quot;.If she says &quot;No.&quot; Just say, &quot;Ok, thanks anyway.&quot; and smile, keep your voice even. Don't be angry or sound like a child that just skinned your knee.If you ask the question in a direct, but friendly tone, and take any response in the same tone you are fine. If she says &quot;No.&quot; you just leave it at that. If she says &quot;Yes.&quot; you do not behave as if she is your girlfriend, you simply say &quot;Great, how does 7:30 sound?&quot; and set the date in a business like fashion.During the meal you can be more casual and normal. While you are at work and asking you need to stay business like. No matter how the date goes, you remain business like at work. Even if she takes you home and does not let you go until 15 minutes after you were supposed to be at work, or if she blows it off. No matter what, the office requires office behavior.In the Army we called this &quot;military bearing&quot;. No matter the situation, when you were on duty, you were mindful of it. Off duty had different rules than on duty. Even if you were dating one of the few women in the unit. It's all lovey-dovey off duty and professional when on duty.You can seperate the two and behave appropriately in both environments. Just don't stalk the girl if she says no!Final advice, if you get the date, don't talk about work. If she asks quesitons, give honest, but simple answers. Don't bad mouth other employees. That can bite you in the rear later. Far better to ask about her and let her know you are interested in her as a person, and not her staple collection at work <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink&nbsp; &nbsp; ;)"&nbsp; data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="CTD, post: 601359, member: 7402"] Re: Don't $h1* where you eat? Bah humbug! Dating at the workplace is quite common in adult life. The trick is to be an adult about it. Ask her out. You'll regret it forever if you don't. When you do you must be mindfful that you are at work, this is true, but you can be mindful of the business place, and still ask. Just be direct. "I was wondering if you would like to have dinner at resturant XYZ on Saturday?". If she says "No." Just say, "Ok, thanks anyway." and smile, keep your voice even. Don't be angry or sound like a child that just skinned your knee. If you ask the question in a direct, but friendly tone, and take any response in the same tone you are fine. If she says "No." you just leave it at that. If she says "Yes." you do not behave as if she is your girlfriend, you simply say "Great, how does 7:30 sound?" and set the date in a business like fashion. During the meal you can be more casual and normal. While you are at work and asking you need to stay business like. No matter how the date goes, you remain business like at work. Even if she takes you home and does not let you go until 15 minutes after you were supposed to be at work, or if she blows it off. No matter what, the office requires office behavior. In the Army we called this "military bearing". No matter the situation, when you were on duty, you were mindful of it. Off duty had different rules than on duty. Even if you were dating one of the few women in the unit. It's all lovey-dovey off duty and professional when on duty. You can seperate the two and behave appropriately in both environments. Just don't stalk the girl if she says no! Final advice, if you get the date, don't talk about work. If she asks quesitons, give honest, but simple answers. Don't bad mouth other employees. That can bite you in the rear later. Far better to ask about [b]her[/b] and let her know you are interested in her as a person, and not her staple collection at work ;) [/QUOTE]

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