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Message: <blockquote data-quote="James McMurray" data-source="post: 151198" data-attributes="member: 743">Ok, here's what you do:1) Spend at least 5 days wallowing in self-pity. Its no fun, but you've got to get it out of your system. During this time, look back at the relationship and find all the little things you did that drove her away.2) Spend another 5 days at least in bitterness. During this time, you'll want to be looking at all the things you did that made you a great catch (assuming there are any <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> ). You'll also want to look at things she did that upset you in the past as well.3) Then, calm down, realize that it isn't the end of everything, just one relationship.  At this point, you'll want to track her down and at least get some closure for yourself. Talk about what went wrong and pay attention to her response. If sh seems interested in rekindling the relationship, and you haven't decided she isn't the one for you, then maybe give it a try. On the other hand, if she doesn't seem interested, don't press the issue. Its better to realize that this one is gone and try to move on t the next one than it is to tear yourself apart trying to recapture someone who has moved on.4) Take a break from the whole relationship arena. This break can be as long or as short as you need it to be, but try not to let it become a forever one. Nobody respects an old bald guy whose only goal in life is to game. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />5) Jump back into the arena when you're ready. Something may fall into your lap or you may have to actively pursue it. This depends more on your personality than anything else though. If you're the type to wait for something, then obviously that's more liekly to be what happens. If you're the type who likes the thrill of the chase, by all means findsomeone else to chase for a bit. Most importantly though: KEEP GAMING! <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" />[EDIT} My wife's name is Traci, so I hope this isn't the Gods' idea of foreshadowing. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f631.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":eek:" title="Eek!    :eek:"  data-smilie="9"data-shortname=":eek:" /> [/EDIT]</blockquote>

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