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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Celebrim" data-source="post: 5706642" data-attributes="member: 4937">For most people, their sexuality isn't really a central part of their identity that they are working through, much less something that they want to work out in public or explore at the game table.  So in many cases, I think that this is simply something that they don't think about.  I mean, you are saying that you find it odd (or sad) that homosexuals are played in certain ways in games, but in general in most games I've been in sexuality has not been a center stage issue for any character and whenever it has come up in any form, its usually played for laughs.  For most people at the table, this probably as seriously as you can take the issue without making most people uncomfortable.  If the player of the hetrosexual player seemed to want to get serious about his sexuality at the table, it would probably creep people out.  As a DM, I've had several players - male and female - develop crushes on my NPC's, but if I ever felt that those players - male or female - wanted to seriously play out a sexual attraction or a sexual issue at the table, it would creep me out.  It's just too intimate of a topic combined with too intimate of a setting.  Things get mixed up, which is why most female gamers don't want their guy friends characters hitting on their characters (without prior OOC permission, and generally that comes with OOC romance as well).  I understand that for some people this is a central issue of their identity and something that they struggle with and have had to struggle with and so playing out those issues seems to be a natural part deepening the meaning and relevancy of their characterization.  But honestly I think that's unusual.  Maybe not rare per se; I've had several gay players, but its not usual.  And really, I've never seen them work sexuality at the table for anything but a joke either.</blockquote>

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