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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ZSutherland" data-source="post: 1013122" data-attributes="member: 7638">I'll bite, Fenes2.  What would you suggest?I actually thought about it seriously when he first showed back up, but put it out my mind after just a few minutes thought.  The personal problems we have/had with this player (in the short non-detailed versions) have to do with a few actions he took behind his girlfriends back (we all think of her as our little sister) that we knew would hurt her if she found out.  Despite the fact, that, out of game we don't get together with him much, he let us know about this, but of course, we couldn't tell her (not our place and we couldn't countenance causing her the pain).  Well, of course she found out anyway, and we were right, though for some reason she eventually got back together with him.  I figure she's a grown woman and made up her own mind, and we outta respect her decision, so I'm trying my darndest not to let it interfere.  However, I can just see this tearing the group apart if we sit down roundtable style and say, "Okay nameless player, some of the other players have a problem with you.  I wouldn't bring it up, but it's apparently interfering with the game."This is where I and the dwarf player run and hide, because we don't like confrontation, and we hope when we come back there's not a pile of corpses where we left our follow gamers.  It's their personal life, but I can't make the rest of these people forgive nor forget it.  His less odious habits of tardiness and interruptions aren't helping.Like I said, I'm a big wuss and try to avoid confrontations and such, and would be reasonably happy (not thrilled, but at least relieved) if it just came down that he (and his girlfriend if she insists on going with him) left the group, but I've been friends with this guy forever and am not comfortable asking him to do that.  The alternative of making it an open discussion however seems like the stuff of nightmares, so any advice you've got on how to handle it will be taken with my thanks (if some trepidation.)Tysr, sorry about that.  Your comments came across as a little caustic, but I'll try to read them w/o interpretting.Z:edit spelling:</blockquote>

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