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Message: <blockquote data-quote="billd91" data-source="post: 1013173" data-attributes="member: 3400">Aside from the other annoyances (tardiness, etc), you are doing the right thing by trying to keep this issue from messing up the game. And your other players should as well. It sounds like his girlfriend was the hurt party and she's apparently forgiven him whatever it was he did. The rest of you should to and leave it at that.As far as trying to hijack your game, he may have well known you had something planned but he may have come up with an interesting idea that day or on the way to springboard off of and wanted to see if it was going to go anywhere. Try not to look at that as a malicious hijacking. He may have just had a reasonablyl cool idea and wanted to see if he could get the rest of you to defer a night from the regular adventure. Maybe he just felt full of DMing goodliness that night. Who knows? He might not have been malicious at all, just kind of insensitive (there are plenty of gamers who, while otherwise clever, are like that).As far as keeping personal issues out of the game, that's good. Keeping things from friends, even if they're being done by another friend, is not. Having been on the other side (friends knew something my then girl friend was doing but decided it wasn't their business to tell me), friends tell friends things to keep them from getting hurt or taken advantage of (as I was). Sometimes it's unpleasant, but if she really was like a little sister to you, why would you let him hurt her even if he is your friend? If some of your players are still holding a grudge about this particular issue and it might be affecting the game, bring up their own culpability in letting him get away with his behavior. Tell them they should be more forgiving. After all, his girl friend seems to be... of him... and you as well.</blockquote>

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