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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Peni Griffin" data-source="post: 3693732" data-attributes="member: 50322">Put the game on indefinite hold until this is resolved.  Assure him, as often as necessary (and you will get sick of saying it, but do it anyway), that no one is mad at him, these things happen, it's just a game and it doesn't matter, everybody's concerned and wants him to do what's best for him, etc.You say he's exhibited manic/depressive behavior before.  Is he on medication?  Does he see a professional or have a support group?  Who's his next of kin?  If you don't know these things, find out.  You can't make an intelligent decision without such knowledge.The next move depends on a lot of things - how willing you are to devote time and energy to this person, who else in his life is available to be responsible for him, how self-aware he is, what his resources are, etc.  It may be that all you can do is make his next-of-kin aware that he needs help and make sure that person gets the straight dope on what happened.  If your friend is trying to cover up, for any reason, he may minimize events like this to the people who care most until an unnecessary state of crisis is reached.  If he lives alone, you may be the first person in a position to notice that anything is wrong, and you might have to take the responsibility of forcing him to face up to the fact that something is out of whack simply because there's no one else available to do the job.  If, however, he's an experienced mental patient, he may already have started the necessary sequence to deal with a familiar probem, and all you may have to do is express the level of support you're willing and able to supply.  If there's a large depressive component, one of the most important things you can do is check in on him periodically, just to let him know somebody gives a care and to assure yourself that he hasn't accidentally-on-purpose taken all his meds at once, forgotten to eat, or otherwise put himself in danger of dying.I've dealt with and gamed with a surprisingly large number of people with diagnosable mental/emotional problems, and they're just like any other health problem except that the standard of care is lower because they aren't as well-understood.  Do not reject him outright or get all creeped out at the idea that he's "crazy."  Lots of "crazy" people have busy, productive, interesting lives in between bouts of craziness, and the number who are a danger to others is statistically smaller than the number of "normal" people who are a danger to others.</blockquote>

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