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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Arbiter of Wyrms" data-source="post: 2411613" data-attributes="member: 18021">I haven't finished reading the thread yet, and, reveal, I'm only picking on you because over the last few weeks, it seems to me that you're the one to pick on when somebody gets an attitude, not because what you've said is subtantially different than the consensus.Confession: I, too, have just not-invited players back to the game.  I never tried to keep the game a secret, per se - at least not that I can remember - but I sometimes don't want to make a big deal of the fact that I don't want any particular player to join us.  If the Guys don't want to game with Spud, that's fine.  They don't have to want to game with him and they don't have to invite him.  They also don't have to make a big deal of telling him "WE don't like you. You can't play with us.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f621.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":mad:" title="Mad    :mad:"  data-smilie="4"data-shortname=":mad:" />  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" /> " I think that it's very decent of them not to go out of their way to hurt Spud's feelings.That said, I believe that the right course of action is to not tell Spud about the game, but to tell the guys that, while you'd really like to play again, you don't feel comfortable excluding Spud, and that you won't join them.  Thank them again for the invite, and let them know that you'll still be enthusiastic to join them next time if they want to either invite Spud or to tell him that they're going to play without him.I know how tempting it is to get together again with an old group, and how hard it is to do without, but you might think about how you'll feel later: Either the Guys will know that you stick up for your friends, even if you'd rather not have to, orYou'll always wonder if Spud will find out, or already has, and knows that you're not the friend he took you for.oh, and you will or won't miss out on a night of gaming with firends.</blockquote>

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