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<blockquote data-quote="Bendris Noulg" data-source="post: 1575713" data-attributes="member: 6398">I think that, in face-to-face, people have a tendancy to be more diplomatic (or, as I call it, &quot;playing pussy-foot around the issue&quot;).&nbsp; You are in the room with the individual, can see the individual's face, the individual's eyes, the individual's body language.&nbsp; This puts a lot more emphasis on trying to get your point across without outright offending the individual.&nbsp;On a message board, the primary concern for many people is saying what they feel without getting banned for it.&nbsp;That said, I don't feel Dragonlancer's views are illegitament; anyone that has joined an established group is the one that has the task of fitting in or leaving.&nbsp; Expecting (indeed, requiring!) the group to change in order to accomodate the new player is rediculous.&nbsp; My personal theory is that those who feel that Dragonlancer's group should do so are more likely not approving of Dragonlancer's style and feel that he should change to accomodate the style they more prefer.&nbsp;And, no, I don't think this is short-sighted or hypocritical.&nbsp; If I was invited to join an established group and found their playstyle to be opposite of mine (i.e., combat heavy, little world-involvement, verisimilitude-out-the-window, etc.), I wouldn't complain about it.&nbsp; I'd simply acknowledge the fact that they are different than me and leave.&nbsp;There's no reason for this to be a situation that results in hurt feelings unless it goes on longer than it should.&nbsp; To which, if Likuidice can't or won't fit into the group, than the group has to be commited to self-preservation and ask him to leave.&nbsp;In such instances, I do try to hook-up non-fitting players with like-minded groups, although this isn't always possible.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Bendris Noulg, post: 1575713, member: 6398"] I think that, in face-to-face, people have a tendancy to be more diplomatic (or, as I call it, "playing pussy-foot around the issue"). You are in the room with the individual, can see the individual's face, the individual's eyes, the individual's body language. This puts a lot more emphasis on trying to get your point across without outright offending the individual. On a message board, the primary concern for many people is saying what they feel without getting banned for it. That said, I don't feel Dragonlancer's views are illegitament; anyone that has joined an [i]established group[/i] is the one that has the task of fitting in or leaving. Expecting (indeed, requiring!) the group to change in order to accomodate the new player is rediculous. My personal theory is that those who feel that Dragonlancer's group should do so are more likely not approving of Dragonlancer's style and feel that he should change to accomodate the style they more prefer. And, no, I don't think this is short-sighted or hypocritical. If I was invited to join an established group and found their playstyle to be opposite of mine (i.e., combat heavy, little world-involvement, verisimilitude-out-the-window, etc.), I wouldn't complain about it. I'd simply acknowledge the fact that they are different than me and leave. There's no reason for this to be a situation that results in hurt feelings [i]unless[/i] it goes on longer than it should. To which, if Likuidice can't or won't fit into the group, than the group has to be commited to self-preservation and ask him to leave. In such instances, I do try to hook-up non-fitting players with like-minded groups, although this isn't always possible. [/QUOTE]

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