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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Unwise" data-source="post: 6850372" data-attributes="member: 98008">I guess I am in the vast minority here. Is it wrong for somebody to tell the OP that they don't like the way they RP? I don't think so. It's socially awkward, but not 'wrong' in an immoral, or even social-contract, sense. It is natural to feel that somebody is being overbearing if they do that, that they are trying to force you to play a certain way etc, but that is just how humans work, we assign motivations based on how things make us feel. It could just be that the complaining guy feels everybody would have more fun if you acted more 'in character'. It is more likely than not that fun is the motivating factor here.I have told all of my players that I don't like they way they RP their characters.If almost forced to, they will write down some quirks, goals, or flaws for their character, invariably these are forgotten though and they turn into the same carbon copy or the 'character' they play every time. We have had PCs make friends with the guy that slaughtered their family, not as the result of any RP, just because it seemed practical and they kind of forgot the reason they were hunting him down. Even when reminded, they said "yeah, whatever, he can teach me the sword technique I want to learn". A few games ago, a PC offered sexual favours to a bunch of guards, I think as a distraction though it was not clear to anyone wth he did it. I thought at the time that was a bit weird, even for him, especially weird actually as I always thought he was homophobic and his character was a male. Anyway, he had completely forgotten the gender of his hetro character, he was a little put out when he realised that his big burly Rasheemi barbarian had just semi-publicly serviced a handful of the kings guard, for little discernible reason.We have paladins of Law and Order breaking into places to steal stuff, just to get rich. Clerics who regularly have to be reminded who their goddess is. Bards who tell the king to do something obscene, then wonder why their roll or 22 on diplomacy does not work. So yeah, I don't feel bad in the least telling people I don't like they way they RP their characters. It is a fact. I simply don't enjoy the game much when they play like that. I don't enjoy entirely gonzo murderhobo games, and I don't feel like I need to pretend to do so. I am in the process of winding up the group I have played with for 20 years, because I don't want to DM for them anymore due to the way they RP and nobody wants to DM.I don't see how this is different if I were a player. The main difference would be that I could put up with it a lot easier and if the whole group was like that, I could just not play. I'm obsessively polite, but I don't think I would be doing anything wrong telling people I don't like they way they play. I likely would not do so and just leave, but that is because I am a chicken regarding social confrontations, not due to some moral superiority. The same as any other instance in life where you want to tell somebody something they don't want to hear, having social skills is useful but they will likely be hurt regardless. Weigh up if it is worth it.</blockquote>

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