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Message: <blockquote data-quote="broghammerj" data-source="post: 2023254" data-attributes="member: 1869">JDyal:  Well as JDyal's "new guy" I'll give you my perspective as it might help.  I went to a Detroit Gameday which was great.  I had never went to an organized event before.  I'm not sure how to meet new gamers if you don't have an event like this in your area.  I guess you could talk to people at a local game store.  Anyways, I kept the option open of meeting people to possibly play but wasn't actively searching for an opportunity.  While everyone I met was very pleasant and friendly, I could immediately tell that there were people that weren't my style of play.  JDyal and company sort of seemed to approach playing from the same perspective.Glassjaw:   This strikes to the heart of the matter.   Although they're may be people out there that play my style, there are definitely those out there that aren't MY style.   It was more important to talk about experiences in college, football, the dynamics of moving to Detroit, etc instead of DND.  It became pretty clear that JDyal and company would be a good fit for me.That being said, we have only played together twice (including that Gameday).  If things started not to work out I would take no offense if I wasn't asked back.  Nor would I have no regrets about leaving if I wasn't enjoying myself.  We're all there to have a good time.My old group posted a sign in a local gaming store asking for new players.  One guy called and there were several conversations over the phone.  They invited him over and played a few games.  He was a bit of a min/maxer and didn't really fit the DMs style.  Since he wasn't a close friend he was sort of marginalized out.  I'm not really sure if an actual discussion was held, but I think he kind of got the point.  I'm sure it could have easily worked out with someone else.  Part of the question you have to ask is how much do you need another body to play.  In my old groups case, we had lost several players.  So after dismissing him, they opted not to play for a while.</blockquote>

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