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<blockquote data-quote="Dannyalcatraz" data-source="post: 4571626" data-attributes="member: 19675">Ahhh, I begin to truly appreciate your problem...because I'm going through the mirror image of it.Our version of &quot;Fred&quot;- I'll call him &quot;Derf&quot;- can actually be more fun in game than out of it.&nbsp; This is a guy I've known and gamed with since 1985.&nbsp; Normally, he's a real cool guy, but he has an amazingly volcanic temper.&nbsp; Given that he's over 6' tall, it can be a bit scary when he goes all Krakatoa.But in game?&nbsp; Sweet as a happy cat.&nbsp; Even when his in-game goals are frustrated, he treats the setbacks and thwarts as challenges to be overcome, not personal slights.&quot;Derf&quot; has been told about his temper by friends and family, all to no effect.Since &quot;Derf&quot; is unwilling or unable to change- at least, not without professional help- we have changed our attitude.&nbsp; We (his buddies and family) just accept that there is going to be the occasional tantrum and just let it blow over.&nbsp; We are like the grass to his tempest- we bend in its face and it passes over us without harm.In your case, you may have to try a similar tactic if you wish to keep your friend.&nbsp; When &quot;Fred&quot; loses it, breathe deeply and ignore it.&nbsp; Repeat.&nbsp; Use the power of your mind to replace the whine of his voice with the sound of crashing surf or the wind through the trees.&nbsp; When his fits stop getting responses, he'll either stop or move on.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Dannyalcatraz, post: 4571626, member: 19675"] Ahhh, I begin to truly appreciate your problem...because I'm going through the mirror image of it. Our version of "Fred"- I'll call him "Derf"- can actually be more fun in game than out of it. This is a guy I've known and gamed with since 1985. Normally, he's a real cool guy, but he has an amazingly volcanic temper. Given that he's over 6' tall, it can be a bit scary when he goes all Krakatoa. But in game? Sweet as a happy cat. Even when his in-game goals are frustrated, he treats the setbacks and thwarts as challenges to be overcome, not personal slights. "Derf" has been told about his temper by friends and family, all to no effect. Since "Derf" is unwilling or unable to change- at least, not without professional help- we have changed our attitude. We (his buddies and family) just accept that there is going to be the occasional tantrum and just let it blow over. We are like the grass to his tempest- we bend in its face and it passes over us without harm. In your case, you may have to try a similar tactic if you wish to keep your friend. When "Fred" loses it, breathe deeply and ignore it. Repeat. Use the power of your mind to replace the whine of his voice with the sound of crashing surf or the wind through the trees. When his fits stop getting responses, he'll either stop or move on. [/QUOTE]

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