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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Vyvyan Basterd" data-source="post: 4572359" data-attributes="member: 4892">I partially agree. I'm the DM, not your Mommy, so don't come tattling to me that Fred is ruining your fun and you want me to fix it.If you want to talk to Fred as a group, that I can get in on. As a group we need to tell him to stop being a jerk.I've had a "Fred" in my group for about 20 years. When he inevitably resorts to his old habits we all tell him to stop and he calms down for a while again. It's really become more of a running gag in our group than a real problem anymore.If your Fred is truly a good friend you do need to be direct with him, a good friendship should be able to withstand honesty. But if he can't change his behavior then you do have to make a decision whether you value your game more or your friendship more. Because once you boot him there is a chance he'll take enough offense to break your friendship. Others are correct that it probably won't end a strong friendship, but I've seen lifelong friendships broken over smaller slights than excluding a friend from a social activity.</blockquote>