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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Dire Bare" data-source="post: 4572784" data-attributes="member: 18182">I've played with "Fred" before.  My Fred was also a good friend with similar in-game behavior.  My quite unprofessional opinion is that people who act like this are trying to gain a sense of control and safety in their gaming that they may be lacking in real life.  I don't know how well you know your own Fred, but I would advise thinking deeper about perhaps why he feels the need to act this way and be sympathetic.  Not that you should pull him aside and try to pyschoanalyze him (that never works well), just that you should view the situation with understanding.Having said that, regardless of the reason behind Fred's behavior, it isn't fair to the rest of the group.  Most people like our Freds end up alienating their friends and becoming loners as people tire of their constant bad behavior.How did I deal with my Fred?  I was the DM, and I pulled him aside a few times to tell him his behavior was uncool.  Sounds like your DM has already taken this step.  Then, everytime my Fred got all sulky when the spotlight shifted away from his character or if his character faced real danger . . . I'd call him out on it right there at the table in a gently teasing yet exasperated tone of voice.  "Fred, stop crying because the spotlight shifted away from Fistandantilus Mordenkainen the Wizard!  Man up!"  "Fred, don't whine when I challenge the players!  I'm not trying to kill you, but unexplained lightning bolts from heaven aren't out of the question if you don't lighten up!"Worked for me, but I had to constantly do it because my Fred never changed his behavior.  Depending on how sensitive your particular Fred is, this approach may backfire!</blockquote>

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