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Message: <blockquote data-quote="fusangite" data-source="post: 2738987" data-attributes="member: 7240">Really? I can't remember this ever happening anywhere in my social circle since the demise of smoking indoors in the early 1980s. I can't think of any time I have ever entered someone's house in the past 20 or more years that I have been told a set of rules.I would be offended because it would indicate to me I'm viewed as stupid or socially inept to the point of requiring remedial attention.So, you don't find subtly mentioning to people who forget to remove their shoes that "the shoes go there" is sufficient? I find that even that is a bit of a sledgehammer approach; usually once someone notices everyone else is shoeless, he remembers to take his shoes off the next time he visit. And, in my experience, people who wear shoes indoors typically keep their shoes pretty clean. I would find it rather creepy to enter someone's house and be greeted with a big sign. About anything.Did he refuse to take them off or something? Or do you just believe that people who don't notice large signs should never be permitted in your domestic space?Nobody disagrees with that. It's just that our solution is to socialize with people who don't need to be hit with rolled-up newspapers in order to behave correctly.If people need written rules for behaving like civilized beings, they don't belong in my home in the first place.Again, what is at issue here is whether certain things should need to be spelled-out. It is pretty easy to tell whether people are house-trained or not when you meet them. If they're not, don't ask them to join your game. I realize there is another reason I wouldn't want to join a game with these kinds of posted rules: it would indicate that the host was so devoid of social inituition that interpersonal conflicts would likely arise with unnecessary frequency.I don't really buy this. Don't you interview potential players at a neutral spot before they show up? I recruited four players from messageboards and the like this year; simply meeting with them was enough to establish whether they were basically socially functional.</blockquote>

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