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<blockquote data-quote="DonTadow" data-source="post: 2740634" data-attributes="member: 22622">How many times have we heard, gee he was such a nice and quiet neighbor.&nbsp; How many times is it always the guy you've had lunch with a dozen times.&nbsp; How come its always the guy at the bar whom ordered up another round with you.&nbsp; I am sorry, but I you&nbsp; can not judge a character in a casual 30 minute coffee break.&nbsp; IF people could, there'd be no need for second dates.&nbsp; Now, if you verbally ask questions similar that in the 30 minutes, is that not more evasive than having it on a peace of paper.&nbsp; At least having them written down, it doesnt sound like you're talking directly to that person.&nbsp; When their written down you get more of a sense that its a form and that these questions are not personal attacks at you.&nbsp; Now, if someone sat me down for coffee and asked me these questions point blank like its written, I could see myself being offended.&nbsp; But a nice form or application makes it very routine.&nbsp; But, now that I think about it, perhaps I am swayed because I am a journalist by trade.&nbsp; I don't have a problem asking people tough questions in my personal or work life.&nbsp; My train of thought is that if you have nothing to hide there should be no offense taken.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="DonTadow, post: 2740634, member: 22622"] How many times have we heard, gee he was such a nice and quiet neighbor. How many times is it always the guy you've had lunch with a dozen times. How come its always the guy at the bar whom ordered up another round with you. I am sorry, but I you can not judge a character in a casual 30 minute coffee break. IF people could, there'd be no need for second dates. Now, if you verbally ask questions similar that in the 30 minutes, is that not more evasive than having it on a peace of paper. At least having them written down, it doesnt sound like you're talking directly to that person. When their written down you get more of a sense that its a form and that these questions are not personal attacks at you. Now, if someone sat me down for coffee and asked me these questions point blank like its written, I could see myself being offended. But a nice form or application makes it very routine. But, now that I think about it, perhaps I am swayed because I am a journalist by trade. I don't have a problem asking people tough questions in my personal or work life. My train of thought is that if you have nothing to hide there should be no offense taken. [/QUOTE]

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