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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mycanid" data-source="post: 2950456" data-attributes="member: 40370">Not too easy to describe ssampier.... I don't want to bad mouth folks. Just because something is a "pet peeve" to you doesn't mean they are worthy targets to be badmouthed. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />I guess I tried to explain it in the lower part of the first post.Basically it goes like this. Everyone has experiences in their life when they experience something in a "big" way, and it makes a life-forming impression on them - on their tastes, their likes, their dislikes, and the rest. This is a very normal thing, and everyone has this. Of course there are varying levels on which it can happen as well, but it is a "natural" thing.What then naturally happens is that the person wants to experience such a thing again, so he exposes himself to similiar circumstances to bring it about. This usually fails, or if it succeeds, it does not last long. Something changes. So the person goes about creating and surrounding himself with more things that are in harmony with the thing that affected him so ... and by "in harmony" I mean in the musical sense of the word. One way to emphasize the melody one is listening to is to sing a harmony with it. And the choices one makes do something similiar.It is quite natural for people to live their whole lives based on/revolving around/ launching off of two or three of these life-forming things/events for the rest of their lives, believe it or not.  They happen to us most strongly when we are in our teen years and growing at a fast rate both physically, intellectually and emotionally.Again, all this is quite normal and regular features of our daily life.Now to the peeve - when a person takes this experience and then extends the field of controlling the environment to harmonize off of the experience he had to other people against their will. And even after repeated requests to not do so, to keep it private, etc.Be aware that I cam not talking about religious or political convictions here - I am talking about personal tastes and likings that are either glommed onto religio-politic convictions or raised to the level of them and then pushing it down other peoples throats whether they want to hear it or not. And this pushing can be down in crude ways, yes - but there are other subtler means of manipulation, and these DRIVE ME UP THE WALL.Oh yes. Did I mention that I was a very private person? <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" />Okay ... I hope that answers your question somewhat. Like I said, it's not an easy thing to articulate.</blockquote>

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