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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 1105496" data-attributes="member: 12043">I don't think that 3 days to yourself is excessive. You have extended the offer to her to join you and I don't think it's really fair of her to ask you to cut back on something you enjoy.Not being able to handle the math sounds like an excuse. I have a severe (I can not stress severe enough) learning disability and at age 26 can barely do math at a 2cnd grade level without a lot of help. She too, had the option of backing away from the relationship over the years and has not. She can't expect you to change for her. I know it's hard and I don't mean to play the devils advocate but you asked for opinions...I think you really need to tell her what YOU want and ask her if she is willing to accept you as you are. Don't try to change yourself for anyone. Trust me, I know from experience it doesn't work. Like I said before I was with someone who wanted me to give up not just fantasy and gaming but virtually everything I did that he wanted no part of and I did and I was miserable. My boyfriend has been in situations in the past where women have wanted him to give up gaming and whenever he did, he was miserable and went back to gaming afterwards and was happy again. In fact, just about everyone I know has been in relationships with either people they've dated or people they've been friends with that have been like that. And like I said, I was on the other end once as well. So I know where she's coming from but that was 7 years ago and looking back, he was right and I was the one who was being selfish and immature.I think you really need to step back and ask, is it worth it? 4 years is a long time and it's hard to think about letting someone go after so long, but I really think you and she need to talk about this because you seem very , very unhappy.</blockquote>

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