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Message: <blockquote data-quote="tburdett" data-source="post: 1244215" data-attributes="member: 4714">After having been married for seven years, I am now going through a divorce.  This may, or may not, be useful to you in your situation.The most valuable thing that I have learned is that the amount of time that you have spent in a poor relationship is really not that important.Two years, five years, ten years, it really does not matter.  Attaching value to time spent in a poor relationship, time which was probably spent feeling stressed, miserable or unhappy, is a fools errand.  That time is already gone, and continuing a poor, failing, or even failed relationship solely because you have a considerable amount of time already invested is literally a waste of time.I would have stayed with my wife and continued to pay the bills for the next twelve years just to have the opportunity to stay with my children and give them the illusion of an unbroken home.  This was even after my wife told me that she was seeing other people.  I can now see just how irrational and pathetic this kind of thinking was.  Now that we are apart I can focus solely on being the best father that I can be.  I no longer have to spend the vast majority of my time and energy dealing with her.I have my daughters every weekend, from the time that I get off work on Friday until I take them to school on Monday, and I have never been happier.</blockquote>