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<blockquote data-quote="KitanaVorr" data-source="post: 959296" data-attributes="member: 9167">Yeah - definitely should have been brought up sooner, but she is also to blame as she should have brought it up herself as well if you had not.&nbsp; 13 years of gaming experience should have taught her that.I don't know her side of the story, but I will comment based on yours.Her behavior is not unlike some experiences at the workplace where a more experienced but insecure worker is introduced into a new group.&nbsp; Everything thing she does is indicative of her inherent insecurity with the group.&nbsp; She just desparately wants some respect and a nod to her &quot;gaming achievements&quot;.&nbsp; Sounds hokey but its really what she wants...to be seen as an &quot;elder&quot;.Her wanting her character to suddenly gain experience without earning it to match the others is absurd in my book.&nbsp; But I am pretty sure that it must be based on not wanting to seem 'less' than the others.&nbsp; If she is feeling patronized, that would be why she didn't want to fall behind.If she thinks you favor another, ask the other players if they also see this to find out if you're doing it without thinking.&nbsp; If so, then you'll have to be more active in correcting that or the others might harbor some resentment that they're afraid to admit to you especially in light of your problems with this person.The &quot;not knowing the rules&quot; though is something that you shouldn't penalize her for.&nbsp; Personally I find it distracting to always have to break away from roleplaying and consulting the rule book.&nbsp; I don't have it memorized unless I use a rule often enough to commit it to memory.However when I am the GM, I always make sure I know the rules and I never assume my players know them.&nbsp; &nbsp; But that's my personal gaming style.Hope you like my two cents!Kit</blockquote>

[QUOTE="KitanaVorr, post: 959296, member: 9167"] Yeah - definitely should have been brought up sooner, but she is also to blame as she should have brought it up herself as well if you had not. 13 years of gaming experience should have taught her that. I don't know her side of the story, but I will comment based on yours. Her behavior is not unlike some experiences at the workplace where a more experienced but insecure worker is introduced into a new group. Everything thing she does is indicative of her inherent insecurity with the group. She just desparately wants some respect and a nod to her "gaming achievements". Sounds hokey but its really what she wants...to be seen as an "elder". Her wanting her character to suddenly gain experience without earning it to match the others is absurd in my book. But I am pretty sure that it must be based on not wanting to seem 'less' than the others. If she is feeling patronized, that would be why she didn't want to fall behind. If she thinks you favor another, ask the other players if they also see this to find out if you're doing it without thinking. If so, then you'll have to be more active in correcting that or the others might harbor some resentment that they're afraid to admit to you especially in light of your problems with this person. The "not knowing the rules" though is something that you shouldn't penalize her for. Personally I find it distracting to always have to break away from roleplaying and consulting the rule book. I don't have it memorized unless I use a rule often enough to commit it to memory. However when I am the GM, I always make sure I know the rules and I never assume my players know them. But that's my personal gaming style. Hope you like my two cents! Kit [/QUOTE]

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