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Message: <blockquote data-quote="payn" data-source="post: 8684426" data-attributes="member: 90374">Looks like this thread is about to turn into a tip toe around your thrown gauntlet discussion, but OP folks hear ya. I have a small list of thing I do to try and make my community experience a better one.<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Learn to suspend your way for sake of discussion. Organized play really helped me with this. You learn a lot from folks if you just listen to them instead of talking over them. If you cant do that, its best to move on then turn the discussion into one you would prefer to have. (Golden rule thinking here, if you are tired of people hating on the things you like, don't act as such in return)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Choose your words carefully. There is a respectful way to disagree. Preferences are not superior or objective even when it comes to mechanics. They are opinions and its ok to disagree, but the discussion is better when you dont have to win.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Use the art of the disengage. If you have done the rounds and the back and fourths, just stop responding to that poster. Remember threads are community conversations, not one on ones. Engage with folks that actually want to proceed with a discussion. Dont be afraid to not get the last word!</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Learn the common behaviors of posters. This takes time, of course, but once you recognize a name you know where the discussion is going. A number of folks have an axe to grind and they are going to grind it in every single thread. It's best to make your point succinctly and move on. Some of these axe grinders don't care what you say they just want an opportunity to post their gripes again, again.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">  Some folks just want to turd in the punchbowl. Being negative and getting a rise out of people is their buisness. Let the mods handle the trolls.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Sometimes, you will slip up on these pieces of advice. It's ok, get back on the bike and keep trying to be better for the better community you want us all to have.</li> </ul>Hope that helps improve your experience.</blockquote>

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