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<blockquote data-quote="BookTenTiger" data-source="post: 8684434" data-attributes="member: 6685541">Yep yep yep yep yep.There have been a number of posts saying something to the effect of &quot;This is just the way communities are, or this is just how online discussion is...&quot; but in my opinion, it doesn't need to be! I personally really make an effort to participate in the same way I would prefer others interact with me.I try to follow three guiding principals:1) Don't Yuck My Yum. If someone likes to play D&amp;D one way, and I like another way... I'm not going to spend my time and energy talking about how much I don't like their way of playing D&amp;D. Even if it's my opinion. It's the same as truffle oil... lots of people love truffle oil, and I don't. But if you're eating truffle fries, I'm not going to stand there telling you how much I don't like truffle fries. It's going to ruin your experience of eating them!2) Ask for Clarification. Sometimes I assume a poster is making some big, bold, grievous statement, and my fingertips start to burn with the desire to post a long, cutting reply... but instead I ask them to clarify. And sometimes I'm right in my assumptions, and sometimes I'm wrong. But either way it helps me take a breath, take a break, and not post under the influence of strong emotion.3) Reply When I Agree. I'm not a big fan of the &quot;Like&quot; reaction because I think it leads to a pattern in which the only posts are disagreements. When I agree with someone's post, I could just click Like... but more and more I'm trying to actually reply, even if all I have to say is &quot;I agree.&quot; I just want to see more agreement posts, so I'm making an effort myself.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BookTenTiger, post: 8684434, member: 6685541"] Yep yep yep yep yep. There have been a number of posts saying something to the effect of "This is just the way communities are, or this is just how online discussion is..." but in my opinion, it doesn't need to be! I personally really make an effort to participate in the same way I would prefer others interact with me. I try to follow three guiding principals: [B]1) Don't Yuck My Yum.[/B] If someone likes to play D&D one way, and I like another way... I'm not going to spend my time and energy talking about how much I don't like their way of playing D&D. Even if it's my opinion. It's the same as truffle oil... lots of people love truffle oil, and I don't. But if you're eating truffle fries, I'm not going to stand there telling you how much I don't like truffle fries. It's going to ruin your experience of eating them! [B]2) Ask for Clarification.[/B] Sometimes I assume a poster is making some big, bold, grievous statement, and my fingertips start to burn with the desire to post a long, cutting reply... but instead I ask them to clarify. And sometimes I'm right in my assumptions, and sometimes I'm wrong. But either way it helps me take a breath, take a break, and not post under the influence of strong emotion. [B]3) Reply When I Agree[/B]. I'm not a big fan of the "Like" reaction because I think it leads to a pattern in which the only posts are disagreements. When I agree with someone's post, I could just click Like... but more and more I'm trying to actually reply, even if all I have to say is "I agree." I just want to see more agreement posts, so I'm making an effort myself. [/QUOTE]

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