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<blockquote data-quote="Whizbang Dustyboots" data-source="post: 8758096" data-attributes="member: 11760">Actually, not every community is like this.I'm in, among others, Ghostbusters cosplay, tiki and hot sauce communities.The Ghostbusters community, even when they stay away from talking about the female-led movie (you may dislike it for reasons other than the gender of the actors, but whooo boy, are there a lot of misogynists who come out of the woodwork every time it's mentioned), are extremely happy to tell each other how the way anyone is doing their cosplay is wrong, they aren't &quot;real&quot; fans because they don't know every bit of minutia about the Ghostbusters cartoons and comic books and action figures, and so on. They're honestly a pretty miserable bunch that I keep muted except when I'm working on upgrading my costume each Halloween, as it's my fallback for walking around with my kids during trick or treating.The tiki community all clearly needs a drink or two, because, again, whatever bottle you're using is inferior to the $300 rare bottle you should obviously be using and the fact that something isn't easily available in your region means you should get on the phone, call all the liquor stores within a five state radius and then drive through the night to get an obscure brand so you can have the &quot;right&quot; bottle for your cocktail. And if you post a home bar with insufficiently tiki decorations, there are Facebook groups that will ban you outright.But then there's the hot sauce folks. Whatever hot sauce you like, everyone is excited for you. Whatever you find at the farmers market or grocery store or on a foreign vacation or make yourself, there's a ton of enthusiasm for it. No one is scoffed at for being a newbie or being into the &quot;wrong&quot; hot sauces.So, no. Some communities are full of miserable jerks. And honestly, we're letting them off the hook by acting like this is just human nature. We can and should expect better.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Whizbang Dustyboots, post: 8758096, member: 11760"] Actually, not every community is like this. I'm in, among others, Ghostbusters cosplay, tiki and hot sauce communities. The Ghostbusters community, even when they stay away from talking about the female-led movie (you may dislike it for reasons other than the gender of the actors, but [I]whooo boy, [/I]are there a lot of misogynists who come out of the woodwork every time it's mentioned), are extremely happy to tell each other how the way anyone is doing their cosplay is wrong, they aren't "real" fans because they don't know every bit of minutia about the Ghostbusters cartoons and comic books and action figures, and so on. They're honestly a pretty miserable bunch that I keep muted except when I'm working on upgrading my costume each Halloween, as it's my fallback for walking around with my kids during trick or treating. The tiki community all clearly needs a drink or two, because, again, whatever bottle you're using is inferior to the $300 rare bottle you should obviously be using and the fact that something isn't easily available in your region means you should get on the phone, call all the liquor stores within a five state radius and then drive through the night to get an obscure brand so you can have the "right" bottle for your cocktail. And if you post a home bar with insufficiently tiki decorations, there are Facebook groups that will ban you outright. But then there's the hot sauce folks. Whatever hot sauce you like, everyone is excited for you. Whatever you find at the farmers market or grocery store or on a foreign vacation or make yourself, there's a ton of enthusiasm for it. No one is scoffed at for being a newbie or being into the "wrong" hot sauces. So, no. Some communities are full of miserable jerks. And honestly, we're letting them off the hook by acting like this is just human nature. We can and should expect better. [/QUOTE]

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