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<blockquote data-quote="Gradine" data-source="post: 8260483" data-attributes="member: 57112"><p>Yeah, I think this is the right answer here. </p><p></p><p>So I'm transgender, but I'm also asexual. Explicit sexual content is something that makes me fairly uncomfortable, at least from a TTRPG perspective. When my friends want to break out Shadowhearts, for instance, I typically exclude myself (even though I love that game).</p><p></p><p>There are plenty of legitimate reasons to uncomfortable with issues of gender expression and sexuality at the TTRPG (inclusion, less so; but then I also know people for whom Inclusivity & Equity is their day job, and I could see one or two of them wanting to enjoy themselves outside of work without having to deal with it, if they can avoid it). The obvious examples would be an individual who is questioning and/or closeted, and isn't comfortable at this point exploring those issues in a tabletop setting, or someone who is an activist and doesn't wants to play the game without being reminded of the trauma they have to constantly navigate (see the above scenario about inclusion, though from the context that doesn't seem to have been the case there.</p><p></p><p>But also, the "this game is probably not going to be a good fit for you" solution is often ignored and overlooked by all the folx wringing their hands over these things; nobody is <em><strong>forced</strong></em> to do anything regardless of how many or which tools they're using. You don't <em>have to </em>accommodate a player. One example I used to see a lot was a DM planning a big Underdark/Drow campaign and one of their players says they're arachnophobic and can't deal with spiders. The handwringers would have you believe that the only choice is to completely destroy your plans as the DM, <em>but it's equally valid and okay to just say "</em>Well, there are going to be a lot of spiders in this one, so if you want to sit this one out, I understand."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Gradine, post: 8260483, member: 57112"] Yeah, I think this is the right answer here. So I'm transgender, but I'm also asexual. Explicit sexual content is something that makes me fairly uncomfortable, at least from a TTRPG perspective. When my friends want to break out Shadowhearts, for instance, I typically exclude myself (even though I love that game). There are plenty of legitimate reasons to uncomfortable with issues of gender expression and sexuality at the TTRPG (inclusion, less so; but then I also know people for whom Inclusivity & Equity is their day job, and I could see one or two of them wanting to enjoy themselves outside of work without having to deal with it, if they can avoid it). The obvious examples would be an individual who is questioning and/or closeted, and isn't comfortable at this point exploring those issues in a tabletop setting, or someone who is an activist and doesn't wants to play the game without being reminded of the trauma they have to constantly navigate (see the above scenario about inclusion, though from the context that doesn't seem to have been the case there. But also, the "this game is probably not going to be a good fit for you" solution is often ignored and overlooked by all the folx wringing their hands over these things; nobody is [I][B]forced[/B][/I] to do anything regardless of how many or which tools they're using. You don't [I]have to [/I]accommodate a player. One example I used to see a lot was a DM planning a big Underdark/Drow campaign and one of their players says they're arachnophobic and can't deal with spiders. The handwringers would have you believe that the only choice is to completely destroy your plans as the DM, [I]but it's equally valid and okay to just say "[/I]Well, there are going to be a lot of spiders in this one, so if you want to sit this one out, I understand." [/QUOTE]
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