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<blockquote data-quote="Gilladian" data-source="post: 5336246" data-attributes="member: 2093">As a woman myself, I agree that you can probably ignore the gender differences on the whole. While there ARE biases, as others have said, many of them are more cultural than we realize.If the society this woman comes from is fairly gender-equal, then simply allow her to respond the same way a man would; it will depend a LOT on what she wants the final relationship with that person to be.If a man makes a (non-threatening) pass at me, on the job, for example, I simply ignore it. I may smile politely or just glance away and shake my head, or I may (if I feel it was rudely done and meant to bother me) simply stare at him for a moment or two as if to say &quot;what the hell?&quot; and then go on with my job (I'm a Librarian at a largish public library and my interactions almost all happen in open view and hearing of other people).The one or two times I have felt that a person's remarks were overly intrusive or mildly threatening, I've simply turned to a co-worker and asked them to take over the interaction. Once, when no coworker was around, I said &quot;I'm sorry, I can't help you any more&quot; and walked away. He stood there in apparent shock, and then left.I suspect that if a woman was a tough, physical type, she might respond with a little more emphasis than I do; but if the person she's dealing with has power or authority (either over her or over something she wants) it is amazing what can be tolerated!!Then again, men tolerate different kinds of crud from other sources (anyone pretend to like football at work?) all the time. We all do, and do it instinctively. So play a woman with her goals and her background in mind, and don't worry about the &quot;woman&quot; aspect.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Gilladian, post: 5336246, member: 2093"] As a woman myself, I agree that you can probably ignore the gender differences on the whole. While there ARE biases, as others have said, many of them are more cultural than we realize. If the society this woman comes from is fairly gender-equal, then simply allow her to respond the same way a man would; it will depend a LOT on what she wants the final relationship with that person to be. If a man makes a (non-threatening) pass at me, on the job, for example, I simply ignore it. I may smile politely or just glance away and shake my head, or I may (if I feel it was rudely done and meant to bother me) simply stare at him for a moment or two as if to say "what the hell?" and then go on with my job (I'm a Librarian at a largish public library and my interactions almost all happen in open view and hearing of other people). The one or two times I have felt that a person's remarks were overly intrusive or mildly threatening, I've simply turned to a co-worker and asked them to take over the interaction. Once, when no coworker was around, I said "I'm sorry, I can't help you any more" and walked away. He stood there in apparent shock, and then left. I suspect that if a woman was a tough, physical type, she might respond with a little more emphasis than I do; but if the person she's dealing with has power or authority (either over her or over something she wants) it is amazing what can be tolerated!! Then again, men tolerate different kinds of crud from other sources (anyone pretend to like football at work?) all the time. We all do, and do it instinctively. So play a woman with her goals and her background in mind, and don't worry about the "woman" aspect. [/QUOTE]

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