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<blockquote data-quote="ezo" data-source="post: 9536347" data-attributes="member: 7037866">Because it builds character? (no pun intended)Even professional athletes under ideal training conditions sometimes just miss a shot, a throw, or whatever. It happens. Perhaps they swung too hard or threw too hard, throwing off their aim? Sometimes, and they KNOW this, they just messed up and failed.Sure, other times perhaps the grass was slick under foot. (The less comical and more practical approach to this is better--sure, don't &quot;make fun&quot; when it happens!) Or the wind kicked up and pushed their shot, etc. Or some other external factor was to blame for their failure.In a game where there is opposition (such as D&amp;D combat), then more often than not it is likely the enemy countered, dodged, took the hit but wasn't affected by it. So, active opposition is why they failed.But to always play it off as &quot;you didn't fail--they stopped you&quot; card reinforces to players the &quot;always have it your way&quot; mentality. Yes, it's a game and we all there (hopefully!) to have fun, but frankly speaking D&amp;D is a game which as taught me a LOT over the years about success, good planning, doing maths, etc. but also about FAILURE, lack of preparation, bad luck and when not to push it, etc.I'm not telling you (or anyone) to be an asshat about it. But as I said upthread, learning to accept actual disappointment and dealing with it from time to time is a learning experience the game can teach as well. Sometimes (with such a game of dice) it is just bad luck, but sometimes playing it as &quot;well, you missed, but as you keep adventuring your numbers improve and you will get better&quot; or whatever is a good way to go, too.It isn't about pessimism or anything like it. Sometimes bad things happen. Facing them is better than pretending they don't exist IMO.No, it doesn't. Obviously. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" alt="🤷‍♂️" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f937-2642.png" title="Man shrugging&nbsp; &nbsp; :man_shrugging:" data-shortname=":man_shrugging:" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="ezo, post: 9536347, member: 7037866"] Because it builds character? (no pun intended) Even professional athletes under ideal training conditions sometimes just miss a shot, a throw, or whatever. It happens. Perhaps they swung too hard or threw too hard, throwing off their aim? Sometimes, and they KNOW this, they just messed up and failed. Sure, other times perhaps the grass was slick under foot. (The less comical and more practical approach to this is better--sure, don't "make fun" when it happens!) Or the wind kicked up and pushed their shot, etc. Or some other external factor was to blame for their failure. In a game where there is opposition (such as D&D combat), then more often than not it is likely the enemy countered, dodged, took the hit but wasn't affected by it. So, active opposition is why they failed. But to always play it off as "you didn't [I]fail[/I]--they [I]stopped[/I] you" card reinforces to players the "always have it your way" mentality. Yes, it's a game and we all there (hopefully!) to have fun, but frankly speaking D&D is a game which as taught me a LOT over the years about success, good planning, doing maths, etc. but also about FAILURE, lack of preparation, bad luck and when not to push it, etc. I'm not telling you (or anyone) to be an asshat about it. But as I said upthread, learning to accept actual disappointment and dealing with it from time to time [I]is[/I] a learning experience the game can teach as well. Sometimes (with such a game of dice) it is just bad luck, but sometimes playing it as "well, you missed, but as you keep adventuring your numbers improve and you [I]will[/I] get better" or whatever is a good way to go, too. It isn't about pessimism or anything like it. Sometimes bad things happen. Facing them is better than pretending they don't exist IMO. No, it doesn't. Obviously. 🤷‍♂️ [/QUOTE]

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