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<blockquote data-quote="Cinderfall" data-source="post: 3646151" data-attributes="member: 24178">My group (of many many years) was getting ready to put our current game on pause to avoid burnout and we decided to spend the session discussing what we would play in the interim.&nbsp; I was upfront and clear that I wasn't interested in playing D&amp;D 3.5 or high fantasy.&nbsp; In the end the group decided to play D&amp;D 3.5 and Forgotten Realms in a full bore high fantasy game.&nbsp; On top of that they had decided on the DM I absolutely didn't want to game under at the time.&nbsp; So pretty much it was point-by-point exactly what I wasn't interested in.Now we as a group had agreed many times that if someone didn't want to participate in a game (for whatever reason) it was cool that they bow out - no hard feelings.&nbsp; This was even reiterated the night of the discussion.&nbsp; I decided that I would give it a try despite my complete lack of interest, primarily because the other players had asked me to.&nbsp; I played for a couple of months and solidly determined that this was not the game for me.&nbsp; I told my group that I felt that I wasn't adding anything to the game nor was I getting anything out of it.&nbsp; Interestingly, they were happy with my participation... but I still wasn't feeling it, so I took a break from the group since I knew that eventually things (on my end) would turn negative (due to boredom, rising irritation, etc.).&nbsp; Also, I didn't want to get burned out on roleplaying by playing something I wasn't enjoying.Irritatingly, part of the group apparently took issue with what I felt was a completely open, friendly departure (I made sure to tell the group that I was interested in gaming with them when they were playing something else).&nbsp; The primary rub came, I think, from the fact that the game is held at our house (my roomie was the DM), so when they gamed, I was there, doing other things (trying to be relatively unobtrusive).&nbsp; I think they expected me to be hanging out with my other non-gaming friends - but I wasn't - I was enjoying some personal time.&nbsp; Maybe they thought I was making a point or something, I don't know.&nbsp; Probably they expected me to &quot;give in&quot; and just play. I just honestly wasn't interested in playing something I wasn't enjoying.But I've gamed with them since and I'm sure it will work out, whatever the problem is/was.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Cinderfall, post: 3646151, member: 24178"] My group (of many many years) was getting ready to put our current game on pause to avoid burnout and we decided to spend the session discussing what we would play in the interim. I was upfront and clear that I wasn't interested in playing D&D 3.5 or high fantasy. In the end the group decided to play D&D 3.5 and Forgotten Realms in a full bore high fantasy game. On top of that they had decided on the DM I absolutely didn't want to game under at the time. So pretty much it was point-by-point exactly what I wasn't interested in. Now we as a group had agreed many times that if someone didn't want to participate in a game (for whatever reason) it was cool that they bow out - no hard feelings. This was even reiterated the night of the discussion. I decided that I would give it a try despite my complete lack of interest, primarily because the other players had asked me to. I played for a couple of months and solidly determined that this was not the game for me. I told my group that I felt that I wasn't adding anything to the game nor was I getting anything out of it. Interestingly, they were happy with my participation... but I still wasn't feeling it, so I took a break from the group since I knew that eventually things (on my end) would turn negative (due to boredom, rising irritation, etc.). Also, I didn't want to get burned out on roleplaying by playing something I wasn't enjoying. Irritatingly, part of the group apparently took issue with what I felt was a completely open, friendly departure (I made sure to tell the group that I was interested in gaming with them when they were playing something else). The primary rub came, I think, from the fact that the game is held at our house (my roomie was the DM), so when they gamed, I was there, doing other things (trying to be relatively unobtrusive). I think they expected me to be hanging out with my other non-gaming friends - but I wasn't - I was enjoying some personal time. Maybe they thought I was making a point or something, I don't know. Probably they expected me to "give in" and just play. I just honestly wasn't interested in playing something I wasn't enjoying. But I've gamed with them since and I'm sure it will work out, whatever the problem is/was. [/QUOTE]

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