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<blockquote data-quote="Emerald Lich" data-source="post: 3647315" data-attributes="member: 48688">I had a similar experience - I'd been playing with a group for 2-3 years, and while the playstyle of the group initially matched my own, the group's playstyle slowly evolved into something that didn't particularly interest me.&nbsp; Additionally, it became clear after a while that one player was essentially driving the direction of the campaign, and the rest of us, for all practical purposes, were relegated to &quot;sidekick&quot; duty.&nbsp; (And yes, there were also a bunch of other issue going on that probably contributed to my dissatisfaction, but the details for them aren't important.)After 3-4 evenings of game play where I found myself really not enjoying the game, I talked to a few of the other &quot;sidekick&quot; players about my frustrations, and found that they didn't share them - they acknowledged that my concerns about the game had some valid points, but didn't find them to be a big deal, or at least didn't see them to be the detriments that I did.&nbsp; So, after that, I showed up for one last game session - and at the end of that, told the DM and the other players that the game wasn't all that fun for me anymore, and that I thought it'd probably be best if I stopped gaming with them.&nbsp; This led to a little discussion, but after it became clear that things really weren't going to change - mostly because the DM and the &quot;main&quot; player didn't see the &quot;sidekick&quot; issue at all, let alone that it could be a problem - so I left, and didn't come back.It was a little uncomfortable, but I've found that being open about gaming issues tend to work in the best interest of a group.&nbsp; I still talk to most of the people in that group, and am still good friends with a few of them.&nbsp; I just know better than to game with them ... or at least all of them, and in that particular configuration.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Emerald Lich, post: 3647315, member: 48688"] I had a similar experience - I'd been playing with a group for 2-3 years, and while the playstyle of the group initially matched my own, the group's playstyle slowly evolved into something that didn't particularly interest me. Additionally, it became clear after a while that one player was essentially driving the direction of the campaign, and the rest of us, for all practical purposes, were relegated to "sidekick" duty. (And yes, there were also a bunch of other issue going on that probably contributed to my dissatisfaction, but the details for them aren't important.) After 3-4 evenings of game play where I found myself really not enjoying the game, I talked to a few of the other "sidekick" players about my frustrations, and found that they didn't share them - they acknowledged that my concerns about the game had some valid points, but didn't find them to be a big deal, or at least didn't see them to be the detriments that I did. So, after that, I showed up for one last game session - and at the end of that, told the DM and the other players that the game wasn't all that fun for me anymore, and that I thought it'd probably be best if I stopped gaming with them. This led to a little discussion, but after it became clear that things really weren't going to change - mostly because the DM and the "main" player didn't see the "sidekick" issue at all, let alone that it could be a problem - so I left, and didn't come back. It was a little uncomfortable, but I've found that being open about gaming issues tend to work in the best interest of a group. I still talk to most of the people in that group, and am still good friends with a few of them. I just know better than to game with them ... or at least all of them, and in that particular configuration. [/QUOTE]

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