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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Squire James" data-source="post: 4085034" data-attributes="member: 548">Maybe I'm slowly morphing into an "old fogey", but I've found a general lack of respect among a LOT of people these days.  Respect is a two-way street, but lack of respect is unilateral.  My advice to the OP should sound rather familiar, but I suggest going down this list until something works or you hit the last item...1.  Talk to your players about your perceived respect issues.  Be sure to mention that, if the player wants certain things in your game, respecting your effort is more likely to get those things than unabated complaints.  On the other hand, if someone says "Well, I kinda like your game, but..." you had better be listening to what follows!  Respect is a two-way street, and not respecting the players is a pretty good way to engender a lack of respect within them.2.  So player's comment is something like "I hate your game" or something kind like that.  Offer them a chance to run their own game.  If they accept the offer with reasonable grace, you may find out they're a better DM than you.  Let him run the game a while, and learn.3.  So the player not only hates your game, he doesn't feel like becoming DM for some reason (or he stinks worse than you do).  Ask them something like "Um, if you hate my game but don't want to run one, why are you here?"  If he has an acceptable respose, go back to step 1 and go back to talking about respect being a two-way street and all.4.  Ask yourself if this player's presence merits going through some changes to your game.  Sometimes it is better to throw an otherwise-good player a bone or two and go on.  If, however, you can't stand that guy any more than he does you, go on to step 5.5.  Give it up.  If this person's your friend, explain that you want to remain friends but you do not wish to game with him.  If he's not, boot him out.Try to spend more time with step 1 than anything else, because it's the most likely to work!</blockquote>

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