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<blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 8375288" data-attributes="member: 177">So, I don't want to read too much into word choice but going &quot;armed&quot; implies a presumption that you would be re-entering conflict...Okay, that's good.But... did you apologize?&nbsp; Like, &quot;Hey, look GM, I'm sorry about that at the last session.&nbsp; I didn't mean to cause any difficulty.&nbsp; If you'd like to talk about it, I'm open...&quot;&nbsp; And maybe find out why she gave that ruling before trying to prove her wrong?&nbsp; If you didn't do that, you basically set her right back in the same position as before, and you should not expect different results.The first part of diplomacy and persuasion is understanding the other person's position - both in logic and emotional state.&nbsp; If she was still miffed at you, coming in with page numbers and argument were not going to win the day.&nbsp; You needed to establish that you want to work with her, not to get to her to accept you were correct all along.Oh, and whether you think you actually did anything that calls for apology is completely aside the point.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Umbran, post: 8375288, member: 177"] So, I don't want to read too much into word choice but going "armed" implies a presumption that you would be re-entering conflict... Okay, that's good. But... did you apologize? Like, "Hey, look GM, I'm sorry about that at the last session. I didn't mean to cause any difficulty. If you'd like to talk about it, I'm open..." And maybe find out why she gave that ruling [I]before[/I] trying to prove her wrong? If you didn't do that, you basically set her right back in the same position as before, and you should not expect different results. The first part of diplomacy and persuasion is [I]understanding[/I] the other person's position - both in logic and emotional state. If she was still miffed at you, coming in with page numbers and argument were not going to win the day. You needed to establish that you want to work [I]with[/I] her, not to get to her to accept you were correct all along. Oh, and whether you think you actually did anything that calls for apology is completely aside the point. [/QUOTE]

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