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Message: <blockquote data-quote="SteelDraco" data-source="post: 3695487" data-attributes="member: 359">What? I don't buy that - I think living with someone before you're married is a logical progression. It's an important step between a SO and a wife. There are foibles you can learn about someone by living with them that you need to know if you intend to live with someone for the rest of your life. For example, you could learn that they're unwilling to compromise - as the OP seems to be learning.It doesn't seem like this is all that's going on here. Did these people know each other before they started living together? Did they get along? It seems to me like it's a bad plan to live with someone you don't know, at least somewhat. That way lies madness and pain. Especially if they tend toward drama, as you've indicated. The only time I've lived with someone I didn't know (at college) we more or less ignored each other the entire time. It was easy, because we didn't fight, but it certainly wasn't enjoyable. Ever since, I've sat down with everyone I've lived with and hammered out any conflicts we could think of with everyone. Heck, at my last apartment, we had a contract that everyone who lived there signed. It spelled out such things as cleaning duties, acceptable decoration, and expectations of cleanliness and consideration. It helped, too - we would have fought much more if we hadn't done that. Doing business with friends or family can be tricky, and that's why I think it's important to keep things organized and clear.As to suggestions about what to do... if you've tried to figure out why they're so angry with each other, and they're unwilling or unable to figure out any kind of a compromise, you're pretty much screwed, and it seems like someone leaving would be the best solution. Are you in a lease? Does either of the couples have somewhere else they can go where things are more comfortable?</blockquote>

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