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Message: <blockquote data-quote="macd21" data-source="post: 7823767" data-attributes="member: 6683793">Yes.Years ago I was running a game in which one aspect of the play was making one player miserable. She didn’t feel she could talk about it, mostly because she felt she’d get exactly the kind of reaction some people here are insisting on - that they’d demand a ‘conversation,’ that they’d try to convince her she was wrong, that they’d tell her that the gaming table wasn’t a therapy session, that they’d tell her to leave.Eventually it made her so miserable that she left anyway. I didn’t find out until years later why. I had no idea that aspect of the game made her uncomfortable. And had there been an X-card at the table, I would have easily excised that part of the game and moved on.You can’t always tell what is going on with the people at your table. People don’t like admitting that they’re not happy with that scene of torture, or murder, or the beating, or the one where the child is trapped in a box, or standing in the sun for hours wondering if you’re going to die, or rape, or... do I go on? And one of the reasons they don’t like bringing it up is because they know that almost without fail, the immediate response is a question that they really don’t want to answer at a table with their friends (or worse, strangers). The X-card gives them a safe way to let raise the issue. And s vital part of it is the fact that they can do so without the fear of that follow up question.And when you get down to it, the GM’s desire to have a spider-monster attack the PCs just isn’t that important.</blockquote>

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