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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 5899906" data-attributes="member: 9037">I have already admitted to some mental health issues. And yes they can effect my life and gaming sometimes. If I get a serious downswing I stop functioning well. So as a player I can still manage but as a DM I can't. The prep work overwhelms me.I am honest with my players about this and they accept it. It does not happen all that often but I did stop DMing for six months back in 2008 because of a medication change that just screwed up my bi polar. This also accept my physical limitations I suffered major brain damage and have aphasia. Most of the time it is hard to tell but sometimes my brain fritzs and I have trouble with words.  For example calling a a bag of popcorn a giraffe or not being able to find the rights words at all. I have learned to laugh at the one and the other I have learned to just stop collect my thoughts. My players are cool about it we usually take a ten minute break and talk about movies, books and other fun stuff. So because people over look my handicaps I will overlook a lot on other people. But when it becomes  detrimental to the game then I say that is it. We had to ask a good friend someone we have known for thirty years to leave the gaming group. He has struggled with mental health issues for years and is on disability. But two years ago things came to a head and all he could do was talk about his problems to the point that at gaming it felt like it was turning into nothing but a therapy session for him. So we told him look until you can get this under control you need to take a break from gaming. We all told him look if you need to talk outside o gaming we are there for you. This may sound selfish of me but one of the reason I enjoy gaming so much is that it takes me out of my issues. I love DMing because I get to be creative and do world building something I love. And I don't want to deal with major issues every week at the table. Right now because my roommate of 33 years is on unemployment it is the only real social activity I get outside of the house. So I don't want to deal with anyone issues at the table.As I said before there are two types of mentally ill people and I think it is the same with physically disabled people. One type accepts that this how it is and tries to find ways to live with it and  be able to function in society. The other type embraces it as long lost lover. They use it an excuse to be selfish and entitled. They expect everyone else to make allowances for them because hey they are mentally ill. And these allowances are over the top like my friend who expected to hold us all in thrall at the table while he talked and talked about his issues. El Mahdi is right we all have filters which we use to filter out people we may not want to associate with, As I said before ill groomed smelly people is one of mine the other is woman who dress like skanks. Show up to the meet and greet and your g string is visible and your boobs are falling out of your shirt. I am going to say no. The reason for this is that every gamer girl I ever met who dressed like that has been a disaster at the table. They are into hey look at me drama and tend to be spot light whores. They also like to play games with the male players heads. So yeah my discriminating like this I may miss a great gamer who could have turned out to be a good friend but we tend to filter based on past experiences.</blockquote>

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